There is not one party that I have ever consulted on, where the ladies say "I wish I never came to this." What they say instead is "I am so glad I came. I needed this."
Yes they did.
Life is busy. You're busy, I'm busy, She's busy....we are ALL OF US ....busy.
We have kids sports, dentist visits, marriage counseling, that girl at work that annoys the FUCK out of us. The husband that can't land a sock in the hamper but he can nail you in the butt and say it was an "accident."
Mother in laws.
Sister in laws.
Papers to grade, the new year to prep for....the list, for us, is endless.
This is when you need to schedule a time into that busy life, for YOU. And I'm not just saying that to sell some weeniers. (although....BONUS if I do!)
Your girls night doesn't have to include me at all. Go to the movies, have a boujie brunch. Every human being, needs time to NOT think about the millions of things they HAVE to do.
To laugh. To reconnect. To deflate, as it were.
From a passion consultants point of view, let me share with you what I see at an average night in this business.
Parties go through stages. Every single one of them.
Stage 1: Hello stranger
At first, 80 percent of ladies experience stranger danger. (except the hostess, because she has met me before) They don't know me and are not sure if they want to tell me that their man can't maintain an erection. That's okay...I'll wait.
Body language is key: shoulders are tense, smiles are not easily captured.
After a few get to know you games and maybe a few drinks. They begin to relax. Most times they still keep me in their peripherals...they are unsure if they can trust me. Even if their friend does.
Stage 2: I trust you now
We are halfway through the party and the ladies are laughing, asking questions and catching up. This is the point when they start asking me questions. Shouting it out for all to hear.
This is when their friends relate to that question and offer sage (drunk) advice or they tell them something similar that happened to them.
This is when the party really begins.
Women are relaxing.
Women are laughing.
Women are enjoying the company of other women.
Stage 3: Girl gang for LIFE!
This is the end of the party. I can visibly see all of the women have relaxed. Their shoulders are no longer tense, they are dancing in the living room and ordering goodies from my table.
I have answered questions, I have made them laugh.
I have succeeded in my mission. I have turned this group of ladies from a bunch of moms, wives, coaches and teachers, into a group of WOMEN.
Women who are confident in their sexuality. Who are armed with a little extra knowledge and know how and are ready to get back to their busy lives...but maybe after one more drink (or ten)
I have answered questions, I have made them laugh.
Body language is loose. Shoulders are relaxed, laughter is everywhere and they are shouting out how much they "needed this"
What I do isn't about JUST making money.
I believe in what I do. I KNOW it is important. In MANY ways....but this one. It's my favorite.
